Thou foster-child of silence and slow time

for girls 

hazel  
ophelia
serafina 
persephone
aisling (ash-linn) 

never, but fun to think about 

bronte  
edwidge
michael
pepper 
araminta
september 
iuliet  (yoo-lee-ette; I met an eastern european girl with this name and was enchanted) amaya (it means night rain, which wins me over alone, but I have absolutely no japanese ancestry and am not going to pretend that I can use this name) 

for boys

samuel
harlan
nikolai  
matthias
tobias 

for twin boys (twins run in my family)

caspian and orion  

for twin girls 

caio and sai (omg I wish)

for boy-girl twins

NO CLUE  

things I don’t care about 

sending out a save the date
an engagement party
a bridal shower 
the dress
a reception
I am still indecisive about a bouquet/flowers tbh
dancing at the non-reception I’ll have
I hate dancing
why do I need to dance
oh that’s right, I don’t  
the garter toss is endlessly dumb  
making the bridesmaids match, who cares 
I don’t know if I’ll even have bridesmaids lbr  

what I do care about

the promises I am making with my husband 
(seriously, no other part of it truly matters to me, the rest is just fluff) 
that, and celebrating with family
and…really. good. food. no less than three times  

what is actually going to happen 

a rehearsal dinner the night before with v. close friends + family 
the actual ceremony the next morning 
a brunch with just immediate family! yum!
then! instead of a reception, I want a backyard bbq, and instead of a cake, a dessert bar that people are assigned to contribute to! yum! and so simple!  

my engagement ring 

my colors

I have known what these were going to be for forever 
but lately I have been thinking a pale pink and grey would be lovely to work with  

my photographer

and oddly enough, I didn’t care about wedding pictures at all (blasphemous blasphemous) until I saw the work of this guy and how incredibly talented he is at capturing non-fabricated moments, at including everything from the food on plates to special exchanges between the guests themselves (which I find a lot of wedding photographers lack~ you want to remember the people at your wedding as much as pictures of you and your man (at least I do)) so that is incredibly important to me, and apparently to this guy as well 

wedding hair because I can’t help it

and a veil/hat  

rambling done and over